If I’d Known Then……

How many times have you heard the phrase if only I could go back to my younger years? What if you could, what would you say to your younger self? I know for myself my youth was filled with some great family memories but also a lot of pain that in my opinion no youth should ever have to deal with. I would tell my younger self to stand tall and not allow all the bullying to define who you are. Being overweight as an adolescent I was named called & made fun of, circumstances that I couldn’t control but yet still define apart of my character to this day. All those words even though they hurt will not be able to break you down as you rise to your true self with in the next few years. I would tell my younger self that being fatherless will truly impact your relationships all throughout your life. My father passed when I was 10 years old from cancer and not having a dad to show me so many things from how a woman is to treated to respecting yourself enough to know my true potential with in. All sounds so easy but growing up without seeing the interactions between my parents really has created a missing link. I would tell my younger self to always look to the most impact-ful person in your life and follow that lead, that would be my mother! Raising 8 kids with out a husband she stood strong,  worked hard and raised us all with dignity, self pride and importance of people….especially family. I would tell my younger self to always tell those you love HOW MUCH you love them for you never know when and where god will call them home. Life has a way of throwing curve balls and there will be many and your crosses at times will be heavy. But I promise you knowing what I know now all this will be a reason that only one day you will understand. Embrace each day, each minute and each second you have here on earth and the people you love. Be yourself but be your best self & dare to be different and follow your own star. Forget what you have done for friends and remember what they have done for you. Remember you are here from God for a purpose concentrate on what you owe to the world. Best advice to give to my younger self would be when faced with a difficult decision make it as wisely as possible and let it go, the moment of absolute certainty never arrives. And as my mother used to always say “Remember that God helps those who help themselves, act as if everything depended upon you and PRAY as if everything depended upon God.”

What would you say to the younger you?

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At 42 years old I'm finally learning the purpose of life. Life changed for me this year in ways I could never have imagined, at my darkest days God showed me the light and brought me back to life. Sometimes you must lose it all in order to start again and this time with meaning. Being greatful for the blessings you have and for the blessing you can bestow on others. Realizing what is truly important in life is the impact you bring on others. I had always wanted to use my personal training to give women back power, power that I felt the first time I fell after a bad break up. I used training to rebuild myself but as explained in My Story is was never a complete rebuild. This year being ripped to my core I was able to rebuild myself not in the physical sense this time but the mental, emotional and spiritual foundations. See being fit is about completion of mind, body & spirit. I want to be able to help women see their true potential in life and each other.

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